The end of an era

This is Bassie’s mom. I have some very sad news to report.

Jami on ladderOn Monday, 19 August, our beloved Jami was killed by a car. He ran out the front door unno­ticed when my hus­band got home that evening. When he hadn’t come back by the next morn­ing, we started search­ing the neigh­bor­hood. We found him a cou­ple of blocks away. He had jumped over the fence in the back of the house and met his end on a main street of our area.

Jami and Samson

My hus­band tells me I shouldn’t feel guilty. Jami was always try­ing to go out. He just adored hunt­ing lizards in the gar­den and he was very good at it. He was very fast and often we real­ized he had gone out only because we missed him at home.
Whenever we knew he had got­ten out, we always fetched him back in. Even had I known that he was out­side, find­ing a cat in the dark in an area of sev­eral blocks square is next to impos­si­ble. Still, I feel that, in the end, I failed Jami because I didn’t pro­tect him, and for that fail­ure I beg fore­give­ness from all who helped bring Jami to us.


Jami came to us through the effort of many peo­ple on Sunday, 28 Oct 2012. In the barely ten months he was with us, he worked his way deep into our hearts and we feel his loss keenly. He was “Motor Mouth,” “Fat Boy,” “Jami Kitty,” “Fat Red,” and many other endear­ments. He talked our ears off. He made us laugh. He cut off our cir­cu­la­tion when he draped his sev­en­teen mama with catspounds over our legs in bed. He was best friends with Samson. He begged food and cud­dles from my Alzheimer mom. He enjoyed curl­ing up in her wheel­chair on top of the gel anti-​​pressure-​​sore cush­ion. He slept on her bed and cud­dled with Java there. He was a favorite with the ladies who help take care of my mom.

I tell myself that he died quickly and that he will never expe­ri­ence the aches and ill­nesses of old age and chronic dis­ease. His life here was a good and happy one. He gave and received love. That may all be true; I have to believe it is true. Nonetheless I feel bereft and bereaved.


44 thoughts on “The end of an era

  1. I feel sad with you but happy you have so many great mem­o­ries of Love because Love Never Dies it just moves upward and onward. Cats are said to have 9 lives but they know life goes alit­tle like this Good, Better & Best. Before peo­ple ever said it cats already thought and knew it “it’s all good”. So even though its hard it’s because you loved so well!

  2. So very sorry to hear­about Jami. Jami was a lucky kitty to have such a won­der­ful home and it sounds like he gave a lot of love back in return. Sending hugs from Mum and me.

  3. Hugs for all of you. Sometimes it seems we aren’t given enough time, but hope­fully the time you and Jami were given together was a spe­cial time for both of you. Tears for the loss of your friend.

  4. Oh my friend… I am so sorry for your loss. Please don’t blame your­self, thought I know how easy it is to do so. Jami is with our Inigo now, and he still feels all the love you have for him as he watches over you.

  5. Oh dear friend, I am so very very sorry this has hap­pened. Please don’t blame your­self. Who knows what Jami’s past his­tory was, and appar­ently she was used to run­ning out the door. They are so quick when they do that, and many don’t want to be caught should you even get close enough to do it. My heart breaks for you. Please know you were Jami’s sav­ing angel when you res­cued her from the kill shel­ter. Because of you, she had tons of love and the best of care. You were her sav­ing angel and gave her the best pos­si­ble life after adop­tion that a kitty could have. Please, please don’t blame your­self. This was meant to be for some rea­son that we will never under­stand. She did go quick and will never have to suf­fer. She’s prob­a­bly OTRB chas­ing but­ter­flies and lizards and hav­ing the time of her life run­ning free! A BIG HUG for you dear friend.

    • Oh dear, so very sorry I kept call­ing Jami she when your post very clearly says “he.” Jamie is leav­ing us with some last minute humor. He’s prob­a­bly grin­ning from ear to ear over my call­ing him she!

    • Thank you, Mary. Yes, Jami was a street cat and they are hard to keep inside. I just wish he had stuck closer to home instead of going adven­tur­ing over the fence. My vet said my cats have great lives and I have to believe him but I still feel respon­si­ble for every­thing that hap­pens to them, good or bad. I know this time had to come, out pets usu­ally die before we do, I just wish it didn’t have to be so soon… Hugs to you and Mario.

  6. I iz heart­bro­ken fur your loss. You gaved Jami lots of luv an a happy home an I know he iz talk­ing to you from over teh bridge an send­ing purrs an luvs your way. *softpaw*

  7. Oh, I am so sorry to hear about Jami. :( Huge hugs to you and love and com­fort and peace and every­thing else that could pos­si­bly be sent.

    Jami had a home and knew love and friends and all the won­der­ful things that come with being a cat with a fam­ily. You gave him that. He was extremely blessed.

    Sometimes sad things hap­pen that we can’t con­trol. Please don’t feel like you failed him. You gave him a won­der­ful life that any kitty would be lucky to have. He had every­thing his lit­tle kitty heart could have desired, except maybe an end­less sup­ply of lizards. :)

    I am so happy you were his mom. I’m also glad that you found him, so he could come back home. Not know­ing can often be worse.

    He has so many friends to meet at the Bridge now. All of our friends will take good care of him until you meet again. <3

    • Thank you so much, Dorian. You made me laugh through my tears with your com­ment about end­less lizards. I am glad we found him, too. Not know­ing is def­i­nitely worse. Big hugs for you and your furries.

  8. Oh my God, I am so very sorry to hear that sad news. Please don’t blame your­self. Thank you so much for sav­ing him and show­ing him such love. Hugs from all of us.

    • Thank you so much. Forgiveness from you means a lot. To me, hav­ing Jami with us for these months was worth every bit of the trou­ble every­one went to to get him here from South Carolina, but it’s good to know that you think so, too. He was very loved. Hugs.

  9. I greeted Jami at da Rainbow Bridge. He like to wear his halo crooked cuz he sez it’s cool. I tolded him we has all that lizards he coudl efur want to play wif. And da Jami gots his own puffy cloud where he can hangs over tha edge and wavey paws to you and keep an eye on yall. Wavey paws of da angels looks like stars. You can see him up in da sky at nite if you looks wif yore heart.
    Angel Sanjee

    • Thank you for the news about Jami, Sanjee. With all the lizards, I’m sure he knows he’s in Heaven. We’ll look for him up in the sky as soon as it clears up from all the rain we’ve been get­ting. In the mean­while, we light a can­dle for him and for all OTRB ani­mals and humans in the evening.

  10. Oh my dear fur­riend, I’m so sorry about Jami. You gave him a lot of love and hap­pi­ness in the time he was with you. Please don’t feel guilty about how he died. He died in the out­doors he loved so much. *softpaw*

  11. I am so sorry for your loss but it is NOT your fault! You are a great cat mom and care­giver, things just hap­pen. If there’s a will, they’ll find a way! You gave him a great life. Do not feel guilty!

    • Thank you, Lillian. I do my best and I think the ani­mals here have good lives. I know it’s impos­si­ble to pro­tect them from every­thing but it’s tempt­ing to think you can :(

  12. Purrr Please don’t blame your­self! I am CONSTANTLY try­ing to get out. Sometimes I man­age to sneak by unseen. Den da hoomans notice I not in da sink or on da bed and go looking.

    It just bad luck dat dis time Jami ran out and went OTRB. It will be hard enough miss­ing him with­out also feel­ing respon­si­ble for his death.

    *gen­tle headbonks*

    • Thank you, Mr. Breeze. So you are a Houdini, too? We’ve taken to count­ing all the cats and dogs peri­od­i­cally. Not easy when there are ten of them and some of the cats like to hang out inside the couch (yes, they’ve ripped the bot­tom out of it and crawl inside). Ear scritches to you.

  13. Oh no! I am SO sorry this hap­pened, and PLEASE do not feel guilty! Some kit­ties just are escape artists and you can’t help it — you just do the best you can about get­ting them back when you are able. You gave Jami an awe­some life and he would not have had that with­out you.

  14. I am so so sorry about your pre­cious beau­ti­ful boy. I remem­ber when he came to you. We were all so grate­ful that he had such a fine home.

    No, they are NEVER “just a cat”. They are full fam­ily mem­bers and beloved. This is @katiebella2

  15. We are so sorry about Jami. Please do not blame your­self, Mizz Bassie. As you right­fully said, his life with you was a good and happy one, filled with love. His time with you may not have been long enough, but it is filled with lots of won­der­ful memories.

  16. WE are so very sorry. We know what it is like for them to want to go out­side. We send tons and tons of hugs and purrs. You sure are in our thoughts.

  17. OMC we just heard about Jami. We are sit­ting here with tears flow­ing. He was such a sweetie and we were so hon­ored to be part of his trans­port. Please don’t blame your­self, he was lucky to have found love in your home.

    The Florida Furkids and Mom Sharon

  18. I’m so sorry for your loss. Jami was for­tu­nate to have found a home with you and I know you grew to love him very quickly. You gave him a won­der­ful home where he knew he was cared for and loved. Hopefully any remorse you feel for him get­ting out will fade as the shock of his loss wears off. You’ll always have won­der­ful mem­o­ries of him.

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